After ending a relationship and entering into a new one, it’s crucial never to compare your current partner to your ex. Each person is unique, and making such comparisons not only disrespects your current partner but also puts your relationship at risk.
Nonetheless, many individuals unconsciously find themselves drawing parallels between the two, and here are some signs that you might be doing just that.
1. The Checklist.
Do you maintain a checklist of qualities your partner should possess? Perhaps they used to exhibit certain behaviors or do things you appreciated, and now you find yourself wishing your current partner would do the same. Engaging in such comparisons is entirely unhealthy.
2. Trying To Anticipate Reactions.
If you’re already assuming how someone will respond or react to what you have to say, based solely on past experiences, it’s a warning sign. While you may have been betrayed or hurt by your ex, it doesn’t mean your current partner will do the same. Rebuilding trust is essential in moving forward.
3. Saying “He Or She Was The Same”.
Alright, if your partner’s actions resemble something your ex would do, remember two things: refrain from vocalizing it, and understand that it doesn’t imply your ex and current partner are identical. Cease making comparisons altogether and focus on moving forward.
4. What If I Run Into My Ex.
If you find yourself pondering what you would do if you encountered your ex while in a new relationship, you’re engaging in comparison. How so? Subconsciously, you might be attempting to demonstrate to yourself or your current partner how they surpass your ex, possibly provoking jealousy if the encounter were to happen.
5. He Or She Understood Me Better.
This situation is unjust. Every individual is unique, and so is the chemistry and connection shared. While your ex may have understood you, they’re an ex for a reason, correct? Conversely, the new person in your life must have done something right to be a part of your present.
Focus on forging new memories with your current partner, exploring new experiences together. It may take time, but as you open up to them, your current partner will also come to understand you deeply.