There’s a pervasive myth that men are consistently ready for intimacy while women require persuasion. However, this belief creates undue pressure on men and can lead to them feigning interest when they’re not truly in the mood.
Just as women deserve to feel sexually desired, especially within marriage, men deserve the same affirmation. Here are five significant ways to communicate to your partner that he is desired sexually, without making any assumptions.
1. Touch Without Nonsexual Feelings.
In addition to sexual touch during intimacy, non-sexual affection is also significant. Even a simple gesture like offering a head massage can make men feel desired. Addressing their insecurities is essential, and this gesture can serve as a vital initial step.
2. Please Flirt.
Flirting tends to be undervalued, particularly after marriage or after spending a few months or years in a live-in relationship. Recall the excitement of flirting in the early stages of your relationship—why should it fade now? If your partner enjoys role play or is drawn to lacy or provocative lingerie, it’s important to stay innovative and occasionally indulge in these preferences to show him that he’s still desired, just as you desire to feel desired by him.
Such gestures make them feel appreciated, knowing you’re making an effort for their enjoyment too.
3. Ask What They Like.
Inquire about his desires and what he wishes for you to do for him. Just as your pleasure matters, so does his.
4. Appreciation.
Don’t overlook the power of compliments and appreciation. Men cherish small compliments, whether it’s for tidying up the kitchen or enhancing home decor. After all, you enjoy receiving compliments too, don’t you? It goes both ways.
5. Ego Stroking.
Absolutely not against feminism! Feminism advocates for equality. Just as you desire to be acknowledged for your beauty, intelligence, and assertiveness, deep down (whether you admit it or not), and to be recognized as “The Woman,” men too have their own desires. Not all men are predators.
Offering them opportunities to demonstrate their strength, such as handling chores that require physical effort, like opening a can or assembling something, can boost their ego and reinforce their sense of security in their masculinity.